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Do you feel empty? Nowadays, there is a general feel of emptiness around our world. You might have noticed that most people regardless of their age, tend to have a void in their mind or heart. But why is that? How can one identify whether this void exists or not?
The feeling of emptiness is not the greatest sense that someone will experience, as it usually leads to loneliness, distance and other negative sentiments. Some people prefer to be left alone and spend their time listening to music, watching movies, reading books, meditating, etc., instead of going out with friends. That is because these people are possibly leaning more to the introvert-side. This means that they tend to feel insecure at crowded places, they despise small talk, feel tired to get out of their houses and often come up with excuses because they prefer to spend time with themselves. Extroverts on the other hand, are great at meeting new people, talking in front of crowds, socializing, sharing experiences and many more.
But they have one thing in common; both categories can be affected by emptiness. The feeling of being empty can exist in both lifestyles, either someone spends their whole day home alone, or being in between friends and family.
The point is, that even though extroverts tend to be involved in friendships with more people, are out and about more often and speak with their friends and family frequently through social media or video calls, the void inside them is even bigger than someone can imagine. We are not going to compare which category of people senses a bigger void, instead, we are going to talk about how this can change.
It is true that due to the pandemic everyone is forced to stay inside, and this means that we can no longer socialize -face to face- as much as we used to. Furthermore, some do not like seeing their loved ones through a phone screen and others cannot afford to do so. This has led to people feeling lonelier and experiencing the feeling of emptiness more often than usually.
Symptoms of emptiness
If you would like to find a solution to your emptiness, it would be wise that you first identify the symptoms. Even though these symptoms may vary from one person to another, here are some of the most frequent symptoms of emptiness, which might involve the following:
- Not being able to identify the purpose in your life
- More negative than positive thoughts
- Need for approval and validation
- Difficulty in expressing feelings
- Feeling numb and having no motivation
Taking into consideration the symptoms mentioned above, we need to come up with a way to fill this void, to make this emptiness go away in order to feel better and become more active.
How to fill the void caused by emptiness?
We need to get to know ourselves once again. How will this happen though? Take small steps, leave space between you and your thoughts, be patient with your own self – it might not be obvious, but we tend to be harsh with ourselves in order to please others.
Time is very important. Change will not happen overnight and the same goes with emptiness going away. If we rush ourselves to socialize more and get out of our “bubble” as I like to call it, we could cause a literal catastrophe. However, you need to get up and start trying to get away from the void. Get up and out when you are ready to go and do not let anyone tell you otherwise, period.
Do not be afraid to ask for help when you notice that change is harder than you thought.
Learn to appreciate what you already own. By doing so, you will start to be full again, even with the little things in your everyday life like enjoying a cup of hot coffee in the morning, going for a short or long walk by yourself, seeing the flowers in your neighborhood grow and bloom, enjoy a day off your day job and so many more!
Happiness is hidden in the smallest things, we just need to lift our eyes higher and be grateful for the beautiful, small moments of our day!
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